And complaining IS a habit, a brain damaging one according to the latest science.
Sure we all like to gripe and moan a little when something goes wrong in our day or when we feel we’ve been dealt more than our fair share of “bad luck.” But have you ever noticed that people who complain a lot seem to attract increasingly more and more stuff TO complain about?
When I read a Facebook wall that reads like a bad reality TV show, it makes me scratch my head. What if that person spent just as much time and energy writing something positive or interesting on their wall instead? How might that change their lives for the better, even just a little?
On the flip side, we all know people who have faced down tragedy and heartache in life and yet, somehow, they find ways to rise above it, to find the good despite the bad, to feel gratitude for what they DO have, not mourn what they don’t. These people add an element of joy and wonder to our day, if only for a moment. And it’s even more wonderful to BE one of those people!
Which person would you rather be? The one who complains or the one who celebrates the here and now for all its glory? (Even if it take a bit of extra effort to find it sometimes?)
In the video below, author and businessman Trevor Blake talks about the habit of complaining and how it hurts the complainer and the person forced to listen to it. You might be surprised by just how harmful this nasty little habit really is! Do take a few minutes to watch the interview. Then consider how you might turn a complaint into an opportunity for action … or perhaps just a simple smile instead.
Hat tip to Destiny Bennett at AgBeat.com for her August 27, 2012 post where I first read about the topic of complaining and brain damage.